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A Heart With Legs

The other night, the girls discussed what God looks like. Ellie needed answers. Real ones. “He is whatever you imagine he looks like,” was the best I could do for her. Molly explained, calmly that he could look like a … Continue reading

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Robins

It is the eve of first grade. We are sitting in the hallway, on the runner; you are in pajamas, just bathed. We are discussing war. Because you have asked. You ask about shooting and cannons. The fort we visited … Continue reading

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Pretty Is Not a Four-Letter Word

I don’t follow the rules. I tell my daughters they are beautiful. I tell them their dresses are adorable on them, that their hair looks pretty. They watch me, sitting on my bed, as I blow dry my hair each … Continue reading

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Variations on a Theme: Summer

“Thank you my life long afternoon…” From Variation on a Theme by W.S. Merwin “Forgive me. I simply do not know what I am doing.” From Variations on a Theme by William Carlos Williams by Kenneth Koch Summer’s great, right? Ah, … Continue reading

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Have You Ever Been Happy?

I would not say I am a happy person. By nature or by defect, I am often depressed and moody. And it is by knowing the darkness that I can experience its absence with pure appreciation. There is an almost … Continue reading

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Vacation: Myths and Facts

I write to you from the picturesque village of Westhampton Beach. We are sharing a house with my family for the week of July 4th. Months ago, I began the search for a house we could share for our summer … Continue reading

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5 Lists for People Who Need to Feel Included Among People Who Have Lists

5 Things I Say Way Too Often Do you need to go pee pee? Do you need to go pee pee? Do you need to go pee pee? Enough with the fucking Band Aids already. Is that pee pee? 5 … Continue reading

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Thank You for Showing Me

I want to talk about these Dove commercials that everyone is going crazy about. Or maybe it’s one commercial. I don’t know because I don’t watch a lot of television. (Oh my god RIGHT?! I mean, I don’t watch a … Continue reading

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Dear Drinking Diaries…

I had the review of Drinking Diaries: Women Serve Their Stories Straight Up written for weeks. I was adding things–material from an interview with the editors, personal anecdotes, and some embarrassingly accurate knowledge of the Alcoholics Anonymous program. And then the … Continue reading

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Sometimes, Always, Never

This is the rule that applies to men’s three-button suit jackets. It is the one thing I remember from when my husband and I were getting married in March 2005. More than our vows, the lovely cards we received from … Continue reading

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